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Communicating with Your Partner After a Baby: 5 ways to have effective communication.

Becoming a new mom is a beautiful and transformative experience, and we know it comes with significant changes and challenges. One of these areas of change is in our relationship. 67% of new couples have a decline in their relationship in the postpartum period. As you navigate the joys and responsibilities of parenthood, nurturing your relationship and fostering open, supportive communication becomes crucial. In this blog post, we will explore valuable insights from the Gottman Method, an evidenced-based treatment, to help you strengthen your connection and create a solid foundation for communication with your partner.

5 Ways to Communicate Effectively After a Baby

It may take you by surprise that most of these tips are not about navigating conflict. They are about nurturing the relationship, staying connected and regulating your own emotions. This is the only true way you will be able to communicate openly and honestly. We need to feel connected, not judged and safe in order to communicate through conflict effetely in your relationship in this postpartum period.

Prioritize Emotional Attunement

One of the key pillars of the Gottman Method is emotional attunement. As a new mom, it's important to be aware of your own emotions, we all know we have a bunch in this postpartum period. It is also important to be aware of your partner emotions. Acknowledge and validate you own emotions and each other's feelings, even if you may have different experiences or perspectives. Set aside dedicated time to connect emotionally, sharing your joys, concerns, and challenges. Remember, understanding and empathizing with each other's emotions can lay the groundwork for effective communication. You do not have to go on date nights or carve out time you do not have when having a baby. Dedicating time to connect might mean that you attempt to eat dinner together, share a cup of tea and talk after you get the baby down, review your day with each other.

Create Rituals of Connection

Practice Active Listening

Use "I" Statements and Express Needs

Practice Conflict Resolution Techniques

As a new mom in the postpartum period, nurturing communication with your partner is essential for maintaining a strong and healthy relationship, reducing stress and feeling supported. By using these 5 tools from the Gottman Method: prioritizing emotional attunement, creating rituals of connection, practicing active listening, using "I" statements, and employing conflict resolution techniques, you can foster open and supportive communication. Remember, healthy communication not only strengthens your relationship but also sets a positive example for your growing family. Embrace the opportunity to grow together, overcome challenges, and celebrate the joys of parenthood as a team.


Hi, I’m Kristina Anzell, I am a Clinical Social Worker dedicated to providing specialized and compassionate mental health support for moms postpartum. My mission is to empower you to thrive in your role as a mother while nurturing your own well-being. If you enjoyed this blog post, check out my blog here! If you want more information or are seeking treatment, feel free to reach out!

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